Thursday, August 19, 2010

Learning Curves

Each day a new beginning . . .

So, on Tuesday, I visited the local senior center to see what sorts of activities they might be able to offer me and mom.  They have a beautiful new facility with exercise machines and a lunch room, a craft room, computer room, classes to take in each of these, and home cooked lunches daily for only $2.  It doesn't cost anything to register either!  What a great thing, I thought!  So, I brought the mombat down with me that afternoon and got us both registered and signed us up for Wednesday lunch.  I made sure mom was up for accompanyng me to exercise class and lunch the next day, and she appeared to be ok with it.  WELL . . .

She came with me all right, but instead of joining me and the other three people for some stretching exercises, she sat stoically in a chair against the wall with a frown on her face, refusing to join in.  After about 20 minutes, the set ended, and I went to sit next to her to ask if she would join in on the next set.  She said, "I refuse to participate in this, I get enough exercise with my walking and housework.  You need to take me home and then you need to leave me alone!"  On the way home, she turned to me and said, "I think I've earned the right to sit in my own house in front of the TV if I want to."  I agreed that she had, dropped her off, and went to Wal-Mart and bought a rake.  I worked off my frustration by cleaning up my yard. 

I think maybe mom has been a little overwhelmed with all the attention she's been getting from me and from my brother and sister-in-law.  Once school starts, Tom and Julie will be going back to work though, and won't be around as much.  Mike (other brother) will be returning from a job in CA at the end of August, and I hope he'll do some back fill for me.  I learned at the Center that an Alzheimer's support group meets once a month on Monday evenings, and I plan to get involved there. 

My learning curve is a big one.  I think it's in direct proportion to mom's forgetting curve.  YIKES!!!

4 comments:

  1. Lol@ "you need to leave me alone!" Oh this blog is going to be the chuckle of my day! I will LOVE keeping up with you here Kathy. Thanks!

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  2. K,
    You gave her the opportunity! Pat yourself on the back. Have you thought of just having lunch with her and telling her how helpful it is to you to have her go to exercise with you? Sometimes I forgot that my mom liked to feel she was still useful.
    Carole

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  3. Kathy,
    Carole has a great comment and some good advice. Be glad that you thought of it! Not everything is going to be successful, BUT don't let Tuesday get you discouraged. Some days are better than others-for you, and for your mom.
    The learning curve isn't as big as you think it is...but sometimes your mom will do some of the teaching.
    And by the way, I love the picture. Your mom is a beautiful lady.
    Hugs, my friend.
    Sue

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  4. ...Been thinking about you a bunch lately. Hug.
    Cousin Deb (Lily, too)

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